Grooming can happen slowly and quietly, often by someone in a position of trust. Parents should watch for unusual attention, secrecy, or isolation from peers. When the adult is a coach or teacher, those warning signs are easier to miss. Knowing the signs that your child is being groomed by a teacher or coach is essential. Early action can stop the abuse.
Grooming is a methodical and gradual process that predators use to gain a child’s trust. Once they do, the child lowers their defenses and becomes an easier target for sexual abuse. Children are inclined to trust adults in positions of authority. Certain teachers and coaches misuse that innate trust to take advantage of youths.
Signs of Child Grooming
Common signs of grooming include sudden secrecy, withdrawal from family, or an unusual emotional attachment to the adult. Your child may receive excessive praise, gifts, or private communication outside normal channels. If the adult in question is communicating with your children through texts or social media, take that as a serious red flag.
Groomers often isolate the child from peers or family, creating a relationship that feels special or secret. You may also notice the adult crossing professional boundaries, such as giving rides, one-on-one meetings, or contacting your child late at night.
The child or teenager may not suspect anything is wrong and may even defend the coach. As a parent, trust your instincts. If something feels off, raise your concerns with anyone who oversees the coach and cease the child’s activities or sports until the matter has been investigated.